embrace your hoe phase 

August 12, 2022

12:56 p.m.

    society has condemned hoes. let's face it, despite hoe phases being a little bit 'normalized', there's still stigma around the concept of having a hoe phase--even though almost everyone has had it. yeah, it's crazy. 

    but as my favorite artist, spiritual gal, and personal hero miss jhene aiko once said (or sung), "I chose happiness over everything." a pretty cool play on the term hoe.

let's define what a hoe phase really means. the urban dictionary described a hoe phase as a phase in your life that occurs frequently when you are fine with exploring promiscuous activities and connecting with random people. these activities do not always end in sex but can often lead to it. 

now, as a person who's had MULTIPLE hoe phases in her life, i admit it can be a little exhausting. especially when you go jumping from one person to another, that shit is fucking TIRING. i mean there really are no specific or objective rules when it comes to having  a hoe phase. you basically just wing it and see what happens. 

some people think hoe phases aren't for them and that's okay. it literally exists for you to try it, no shame in your game if you think you're more of a relationship person. but for me, i personally think hoe phases are so important for an individual to experience. may it be through your body count or through texts and talking stages, you name it. i think it makes you more aware of how many options you got, how many people you can be compatible with, exploring your sexual styles, getting to know your body, and getting to know what type of people you're really into. you can have as many hoe phases as you want, you can date as MANY people as you want as long as you're being safe (i can't stress this enough. don't be catching std's and making accidental babies just because you're in your exploration phase, PLS BE RESPONSIBLE) and you're making it exclusive that you're not looking for something serious yet. don't be an asshole, don't lead these bitches on. i highly suggest you date / talk / fuck with people that are looking for the same thing as you are. 

    i honestly think people that have been on a hoe phase are more loyal than people that haven't. take note: this is NOT a fact, it could vary from people to people, but i really think people that have gone out there and explored all the options and still chose to settle down with you is a possible indication that they think you two (or three idk some of y'all may be poly) are compatible. so don't shame your partner if they've ever been on a hoe phase. it's normal. relax. they're with you now, aren't they?

    all i'm saying is, go out there. stop actively looking for 'true love' or thinking that everyone you meet could possibly your 'the one.' relax and have fun. some things that are meant for you come your way without you having to chase it. 

ciaoooo